23 Ways To Get Back Up When You’re Feeling Down

ways to get up when you're feeling down

By Andrea Zanetich

Like a seesaw in the playground, life is full of ups and downs. And every once in a while, you’re going to land with a bigger-than-expected thud.

Lately, a few of my friends have been having a bit of a rough time: One has come out of an abusive relationship, one is very ill. Another has just lost a loved one, and another friend spent last weekend rushing her little boy to the hospital, twice.

 

It got me wondering about the different ways people get through their hard times.”

 

So after chatting with loads of women on the Fox in Flats Facebook the other night, where we all shared what’s worked for us, I compiled 23 tried and tested ways to get through tough times. Hopefully these great tips will help you get going when the going gets tough.

 

1. Exercise

Kathy said that, to get into the right frame of mind, she starts by doing exercise. “Nothing picks me up quicker and helps me put things into perspective than the chance to breathe heavy while I think about the problem. ‘Will this situation kill me?’ I ask. No. Well then, let’s kick its butt, and get on with the show.”

 

2. Write it down

“I write it all down; what’s upsetting me, all the ways I might deal with it…”  said Kathryn. “Keeping a diary or  journal can help too. A daily gratitude journal practice has helped me to see past my tough times.”

 

3. Clean the house

Building on the idea that physical activity helps, a number of women recommended ‘stress cleaning.’  Seems that giving the bathroom a good scrub can help to wash away the stress associated with some problems, give you a sense of order and control, AND you’re left with a clean house. “I stress clean A LOT,” said Amy.

 

4. Talk with friends

Cathy said it helps her to regularly catch up with close friends, share a bottle of wine or some chocolate, and shed some tears.

Katie agreed, and said she calls these sessions “Random acts of crying,” and swears by their healing properties.

girly chats

5. Get in touch with nature

“Fresh air does wonders,” said Amanda. Or if that’s not possible, bring nature to you. “Flowers in the house cheer me up,” shared Leanne.

 

6. Take one day at time

Kim offered “Take each day as it comes, don’t worry about tomorrow or look too far into the future. You can’t change the things you have no control over.” So focus on the here and now, and if you do that well, the future will probably just take care of itself.

 

7. Get the mixing bowl out

They say “Chicken soup is good for the soul,” but for some women, baking works even better. “It centres me,” stated Melanie. And no doubt indulging in the finished product helps put smiles on faces too.

 

8. Meditate

Clearing your mind, taking a break from your emotions and instead finding a grounded, mindful calmness through meditation was recommended by a chilled out Karen.

 

9. Shed some tears

“It’s important to let yourself really feel your emotions – to give yourself permission to fall apart, cry your heart out,” advised Bron. And Pene agreed bluntly saying “Don’t let f***heads tell you about silver linings until you’ve worked through the shit.”

 

10. Get perspective

Sarah’s tough-time tip for herself was to “Always remember that someone, somewhere has it tougher than me.”

 

11. Crank up the tunes

Loads of the ladies offered up music as the ultimate mood transformer –  and dancing in the kitchen takes the effect up a notch further!

dance with your heart

12. Know it will pass

“My hubby always reminds me that EVERYTHING in life is temporary – including life itself. ‘This, too, shall pass.’ You just have to survive each moment until it does,”  shared Barbara.

 

13. Take action

“I get determined,” said Barbara, “because I know that things won’t change unless I change them.”

Renee shared, “I have always found small goals ( short and long-term) keep me focused and motivated. And it’s nice to cross them off as I achieve them and look back at them to see how far I’ve come.”

 

14. Call your mum

Or someone who’s got your back, no matter what. When Katie is down she said, “I talk to my mum. I don’t know what I’d do without her.”

 

15. Have a giggle

Fiona shared how laughing always makes her feel better. “Looking at funny photos, a stupid YouTube video, tickling the kids. A good giggle has a way of lifting my mood and distracting me for a while.” FYI: Australia’s Funniest Home Videos screens on Saturday nights.

 

16. Flex your muscles

Remember what Freddy Nietzsche said: “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.’ Or listen to Rachael’s Nan, who told her “You are only given what He knows you can handle.” Natasha agreed with this sentiment, sharing “I am way stronger than I know (because in the past when tested I have dealt with more than I thought was possible and I just did it one day at a time)”

be strong

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17. Seek professional help

“Find a good psychologist,” offered Janet. “They can make such a difference.”

 

18. Drink Wine or Champagne

Jessica said the way she gets through tough times is to “Drink expensive champagne…unless of course the stress is money – then it’s cheap champagne.”

 

19. Escape with a book

“There’s nothing like a book taking you to a different place,” said Katie.

 

20. Rest

Sometimes it’s just best to hit the hay and wait for a new day to dawn. That’s what Kimmie says she does. “Sleep. I go to sleep.” Zzzzzzz!

 

21. Cuddles. Lots and Lots of cuddles

Because squeezes always help, so summon the tribe and get snuggling.

 

22. Reflect

After you’ve worked through a hard time, Pene advised it’s worth trying to look back and see the positives – what have you learnt from the situation? She said “No matter how awful something is, somehow it will grow you into a better person.”

 

23. Have a mantra

As for me, I love this line from AA Milne, the creator of  Winnie The Pooh – it’s become my tough-time mantra:

braver-than-you-think

 

Thankyou so much to all the gorgeous women in the Fox in Flats Community.

Your ideas, tips and advice are so, so inspiring. 

What helps you through tough times?

 

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Comments

  • L

    Wow. this is certainly well timed. I will write these down and refer to them often over the next few days.Thank you.

    • FoxInFlats

      Great news x A

  • http://www.stylistamama.com/ Rose @ Stylista Mama

    I LOVE this! I am a big believer on getting perspective. Another thing I try to do is look at the situation to see if there is a lesson to be learned, like is there a personal attribute or emotion I need to work on etc. Other times shit just happens and you gotta roll with punches – eat some chocolate, talk it through with a friend and give a loved one a BIG hug.

    • FoxInFlats

      I love that ‘see what lesson you can learn’ so positive. X A

  • FoxInFlats

    Oh no that’s so much!!! Thankyou for sharing your fabulous tips – ice certainly taken them to heart x

  • http://twitter.com/modibodi_ Kristy Chong

    A great list, thankyou. I think it is also ok sometimes to just feel a little down, as long as you recognise you are currently feeling down, and we all have those moments/days. If you recognise it and dont get caught up in the feeling, just know it is there then the quicker the bad feeling will pass.

    • FoxInFlats

      Totally agree x

  • AJ

    My friend and I have a wine and whine session regularly!

    • FoxInFlats

      Sounds like fun! xA

  • Amy @ LittleONE

    These are great Andrea! I think the nicest thing is to remember that EVERYONE has tough days. Sometimes you can think you are out there on your own with your troubles and that can magnify them…so reading this – and everyone’s comments – is a really nice reminder that we are all in the same boat. It is really important to not be too hard on ourselves when things are hard x

    • FoxInFlats

      “It is really important to not be too hard on ourselves when things are hard.” Exactly! xA

  • http://justmore.com.au/ Melinda

    Absolutely love all of these tips Andrea! Need to print them out and put them where I can see them xx

    • FoxInFlats

      Thankyou Melinda, I often refer back to it myself! xA

  • http://www.creatingcontentment.com/ Sarah from Creating Contentmen

    As I lay on my bed desperately wanting some time all by myself, and a different child wanders in with a question or demand every minute, I would add to this list: time out. Though as some days this is just unlikely, I’m thinking I may embrace this chaos instead by attempting to calm them with a movie, make some popcorn to fill their mouths and snuggle up with them on the couch. Hugs amongst the quiet remind me that I love their warm little bodies. xS

    • FoxInFlats

      Hmmm, good idea Sarah. Sometimes those bodies have a calming effect. In fact I think I may do the same today – feeling a bit ‘meh’ – and usually the kids in after school care so I can work, but all I want to do is sleep (jetlag finally caught up with me) perhaps picking them up early, popcorn and cuddles and movies is just what the doctor ordered at my place too. Thanks for the great idea. x

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